Some research studies in the world and Cambodia have shown that many high school and college students have mental illnesses because they are too stressed out, under the pressure of thinking about academic results and the future.
With the concern for their children’s future, some parents force their children to study too much and are too strict with their children because they want them to do well. But sometimes doing so is actually harming them.
When parents restrict their children’s learning too much, they mistakenly believe that what their parents are doing to them is not love, not their parents’ wishes. They may think it is a punishment or a punishment, and some girls and boys, when they are constantly under that pressure, when they are teenagers, some may commit suicide or develop mental health problems.
Such sad stories may be common in Cambodian society today, but many families or parents do not share them. It’s not a joke, nor is it a message of any kind, but it is a perspective that reminds us all to pay attention to this issue.
Up until now, many girls and boys have been studying without a break, even on Saturdays and Sundays, and they still hear the words “study this all the time.” From childhood to adolescence, this pressure is constantly pounding in their heads. So when they reach adolescence, they have psychological symptoms.
Some children have no time to rest during the school day. In the morning, they go to Khmer school, in the evening, they go to English school, at night, they take supplementary classes, some learn Chinese, and on Saturdays and Sundays, they learn to play music, learn to swim, etc. Parents, do not let your children study too much. Be careful that good intentions turn into unfortunate actions for them.
Please try to raise your children with love, learn, understand, and encourage them. Our children are not always as small as we think every day. When they are young, they can listen and be afraid. We are parents or guardians. But when they reach adolescence, they decide to follow a different path that they understand.
Your children, when they grow up to be teenagers, are at an age when they start to have their own thoughts. They may decide to do something that will only leave a legacy for their parents and family.
To avoid regrets, every parent should try to understand their child, especially during adolescence. If your children at this age are not interested in studying, it is necessary to solve the problem with patience and try to understand them. But absolutely do not force or punish.
Parents should find out the reason before trying to convince them, and should also try to encourage or talk directly with them, trying to find something that connects learning to their interests and goals. Parents should build trust and communication frequently and try to talk to them openly.
In short, if parents want their children to grow up positively, they should not force them to think too much about studying. Parents should promote motivation, and motivating teenagers to study requires empathy and a strategic approach to positivity. While there is no instant solution, consistent effort is a positive approach that can help your child develop the motivation and discipline needed to succeed in school.
Remember, the goal is not just good grades; it is about building a mindset that values growth, responsibility, and lifelong learning. But if parents are too strict with their children, watch out for tears.
